In our Audio Cd Series, How to Break the Cycle of Resentment and Anger in a Marriage, we give couples what I call "Rules of Engagement" for dealing with conflict. The idea is that many couples quickly leave the “house” where the adults reside and end up on what I call the “playground” of relationships when dealing with issues. That is, instead of staying in a problem-solving mode, they often end up trying to get even, lash out, or make the other person feel inferior.

When couples fight, a wall of emotion has a way of erecting itself between the two, and couples spend much of their time just trying to catapult their way over that wall by using logic, manipulation, anger, and harsh words. The problem? This is not only unproductive, but virtually impossible. That is, from my experience, that wall of emotion is too high for most couples to climb, and few have ever been able to scale its heights.

The solution? Realize that this wall is but temporary, and, after the wall of emotion has subsided, then and only then deal with an issue using what I call "Rules of Engagement".

Here are a few of these rules that we use in our Audio Cd Series and coaching sessions:

1. Don't argue late into the night. After 10:30 PM, all problems look worse than they really are.

2. Stick with the facts. That is, don't exaggerate using words like "you always . . .", "you never . . . ", or "every time you . . .". These phrases are typically just exaggerated truths which, in reality, are no truths at all.

3. Don't argue in front of the children. The joy of the parents is the strength of the children. Even if you are having issues as a couple, your children need to see a united front.

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